One of the more irksome things about the natural birth movement is the insistence that anything negative be hidden from view. Every homebirth loss mom I know has had her attempts to tell her story censored and lost friends over her insistence on speaking out against a negligent midwife. I believe it has happened again with the latest tragedy. Margarita posted her story on Birth Without Fear. When Mrs. BWF decided to close her page, she claimed she was leaving everything up for it’s “great information and birth stories,” but apparently this birth story wasn’t one she decided to keep.
Margarita, we are so, SO sorry for your loss and we applaud your efforts to get your story out there, even in the midst of your grief. There are several women reading this who have been through a similar experience and would be happy to talk to you, grieve with you, or support you in any way they can. Similarly, if you feel like posting this here is not the kind of support you would like at this time, we are perfectly willing to remove it. Please contact us through our facebook page if you need anything.
Oh, and while we’re at it? Stop saying idiotic things to mothers who lose their babies and tell their stories. It’s not the time for Monday-morning quarterbacking or offering support for negligent midwives. The only appropriate response is, “I’m sorry for your loss. Is there anything I can do to help you right now?”