And the best comment award goes to Tara, for this:
This tells a good portion of her story but leaves out some of the most chilling details. The “midwives” Darby Partner and Laura Tanner looked great and talked a good game but failed to deliver on their promises. But worse than that, their actions were self-serving. This was Darby’s first primary birth and she wasn’t going to have a hospital transport as her first birth. So they in effect, kidnapped Margarita. They took away her phone and forced her friends to leave. M’s husband was in India and was not allowed to talk to her. Her friend called the police multiple times and got no help. So margarita was alone with these charlatans, and in pain and helpless. They actually left her so they would not have to hear her pleas to go the hospital. They didn’t even know enough to tell that they were picking up her heartbeat and not the baby’s. They also did not even have a bulb syringe or knowledge of CPR. They forced her to labor for 8 days with all the warning signs. Meconium in the fluid, post dates etc. They misrepresented themselves and because of the lack of a system that Oregon has there is no way to tell the difference. I saw Darby’s and Laura’s websites myself, they looked legit. Full of pictures of happy mamas and babies and Darby looking like some benevolent mother earth figure. This is why this mother is fighting so hard, so that no one else is duped by fakers like she was. But is goes deeper than that. Natural child birth and homebirth can be wonderful, but there is an undercurrent of sickly sweet lies that has overtaken the NCB world. The blame lies heavily on the false prophets of the community that peddle the most egregious tripe. They spew such platitudes as no woman can grow a baby she can’t birth, and breech is another variation of normal. They employ fearmongering techniques and tell mothers that doctors only want to cut them so they can get to their golf game. They are zealots and they are cult-like in how they maintain rigid control over the content on their sites. Margarita’s own story was deleted from the most popular of these pages. They do not allow dissenting points of view and commenters, myself included, are deleted for raising up a voice of reason. They deny that there is any risk to birth at all and scoff at known complications like pre-eclampsia, previa and gestational diabetes. Worse, they push bunk remedies like garlic vaginal suppositories for group B strep. They viciously cut down any women who have inductions and c/sections and their followers follow suit. It’s common to hear how women who have c sections are selfish and shouldn’t be allowed to have children. They have created an impossible ideal in the name of being “natural” and and any woman that doesn’t follow in this ideal of homebirth, breastfeeding,cloth diapering,not circing, not vaccinating, etc are denounced and verbally flogged by hundreds of women. I’m actually surprised there aren’t more suicides from this, although we hear of a great deal of postpartum depression and difficulties bonding with the children that result from the “failed birth” I personally know a mother that has spent the last year regretting her homebirth transport and feeling like a failure because of it. Is it any wonder that vulnerable mothers go running to midwives? And these saccharine phonies are there with arms wide open promising to give them the birth experience they always wanted and failing them in the 11th hour. There is nothing we can really do to prevent this kind of propaganda from saturating the internet, but there is damn well something we can do about the lying, self-proclaimed “midwives” that exploit a mother’s fears. We need to demand stricter educational standards(25 births, are you kidding me?) mandatory regulations, mandatory licensing, malpractice insurance and the strictest review board that will drop the hammer down on these incompetent wanna-be midwives. You know, what’s really sad? Because these midwives aren’t insured, there isn’t even any civil action that babyloss mothers can seek. They literally get away scott-free. And they go on to harm even more babies and mothers. If they want to be professionals, then they need to be held to professional standards.